Happy New Year

2009 is here with all its might! We have started this year with putting offers on a new apartment and now are waiting to see if the negotiations would lead to a postive ground or not! It's exciting times! Yesterday, my parents and us went to see the apartment we were putting the offer on again as well as some other ones to make sure that this place is what we really want and have a game plan for plan B! We are hoping to have a smooth move from our current apartment and the next one in the next couple of months.

Last night we enjoyed the night at one of our family friends among other friends. I always enjoy grown up gatherings than the ones in my age group! I think the quality of discussions are much better and they are more interesting!

Recently everyone at work and some people who I just met, ask me why I am not getting pregnant! So far I have used the polite approach but I know that it slowly is getting me sensitive on this topic and may result in some not so polite responses later on!

I think in general, generation Y is not as keen as increasing the population of the earth as generation X did. Our mentality is different, our point of views, goals and dreams are different. For example, I was talking to a man from generation X from work, about motherhood versus career life for modern women and he totally ignored my point. I am not sure it was because he didn't understand my point or he is used to thinking of women as means for having babies!

From all my friends around my age, only 3 of them have babies, which 2 of them had to struggle with their goals as a woman and their duties as a mother. Don't get me wrong, I love babies and I think they are adorable. At the same time, I know that in order to make sure a new born comes into this world with his/her parents planning, may be a better off person in future than what I hear from generation X for example that our parents didn't know what we were doing or studying and had no plans for us and we grew up to be okay!

To be honest, being emotionally and financially ready to me are the key points before getting pregnant. I refuse to be selfish enough to insists on creating a being that its genetic make up includes pishi's and mine when we are not ready for he/she. I would rather wait until we think the time is right and if by then I don't think I would like to add another person to the current population of the earth, I would adopt.

The most irritating point of the baby discussions is that, some people allow themselves to interfere in other people's lives and try to change their minds about their decision making process. Everyone in this world is sensitive to some issue. I think one of the lessons that I have learned over the years that i lived in Canada is tolerance and not to judge and interfere in people's lives.

Don't be surprised that the people who conversed with me about to have or not to have a baby are from different cultures and that they think babies should pop out after 2-3 years after marriage!!And to add to that the majority of them are guys who are telling this to me!

I some times wonder, whether men really understand what women go through to have a baby and that once a baby is born, do they really help their wives with the baby and have the same level of care as women have.